Speak Kindly to Yourself

We have all been spending a little more time in our own company lately, and this has caused me to do a lot more wandering through my thoughts and developing thoughts that I would typically brush past.

One of the things I have been thinking a lot lately about perspective, especially when it comes to how we speak to ourselves.


“You shouldn’t bother talking; you don’t have anything of value to bring to the conversation.”

“You need to need to act differently because people aren’t going to like your natural personality.”

“You aren’t smart enough for that.”

“Don’t tell people about that; they might disapprove and judge you.”

“You have to do this whether you want to or not because everyone expects it.”


Do any or all of these sound familiar?
Unless you are a total narcissist, you have probably said these or something similar to yourself at one time or another.
Okay, so now I want you to think of one of the people you love most and imagine yourself saying all of these to them with the same tone you tell them to ourselves.
Would you feel pretty awful, right?

So, if you wouldn’t say it to someone you love and respect, WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU SAY IT TO YOURSELF!!!

I firmly believe that nobody’s words can hurt you like your own. You wouldn’t want to hang around a person who said these things to you, and who is the one person you are with the most?
Self-love, self-respect, and self-acceptance are essential things, but they often get lost in the craziness of life.

So please remember to;

Love who you are and who you are going to be.

Respect your opinion and your value.

Accept who you used to be and that you are imperfect and will make mistakes. But those mistakes don’t define you as long as you are doing your best to be the best version of you.

Let’s face it, life isn’t all sunshine and roses all of the time, and there will always be negative influences, so let’s try to make our minds a positive space of kindness and peace, both for our own sake, and those we care about.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
I hope you all have a fantastic week.

Published by asparkleofgrace

22-year-old Beauty & Lifestyle blogger.

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